Dear Single Mother's...Let Father’s have their day

Tomorrow will be Father's Day. This seems to be also a day some single mothers intrude on. The reason? Many take on both mother and father roles due to the father's negligence. Now I’m not here to tell anyone how to feel about the absent father. Rightfully so, you're entitled to feel some type of way. That man has left you with the responsibility of parenting all alone when it’s a two parent job. I get it sis. I’m a single mother myself.

Before I had a child I felt like I couldn’t have an opinion on this subject. Sometimes you have to experience what’s it’s like in another person's shoes first. My child’s father made the decision not to be in our son’s life. After time healed my wounds I learned to respect his decision and move on. You can’t make anyone do what they don’t want to do. Now that I’m versed in the life of a single parent, I still don’t agree with mothers posting “Happy Father’s Day to me”.

Now I’m not saying you have to be shouting Happy Father’s day to the man you had kids with. Clearly if that man hasn’t been fulfilling the fatherly duties let life deal with him. I ask that instead you turn your energy to recognizing men that are good fathers. It’s not highly publicized but there are single fathers out here doing the damn thing. I have not personally seen a single father make mother’s day about them. They allow mother's to have their day because no matter what they will never be a woman just like you will never be a man. Yes, you do play additional roles again no one can take that from you.

I wanna shout out all the fathers I know doing an awesome job helping to raise their child(ren) whether you’re with the mother or not. A special shout out to all the men helping to raise children that aren’t biologically theirs. I’m a product of that love. My father has been around since I was a one year old. He hasn’t missed a beat since. I got my love of music from him. Any time I need to vent or want a mans perspective he’s there to listen and give his advice. I’m definitely blessed. I don’t have a relationship with my biological father and that was his choice. I hate that this cycle has continued and passed down to my son. I will make sure he has male figures in his life. I am not a man and cannot replace one.

Please let the men have Father’s Day. Also to anyone that knows me, please don’t wish me a Happy Father's Day. I’m a mother and I’ve already had my day to celebrate.

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